Shattered Sexual Desire

By Anne Griza
Psychologist and Sexologist

As grim as the title of this article may seem, alias, the clitoris ablation still common practice in continents like Africa, the Middle East and Asia.  According to surveys from the United Nations Fund for the world population, roughly 85 to 114 million girls were subjected to mutilation of their sexual organs in nations likewise.

Female genital mutilation, aka “female circumcision”, consisted in either total or partial ablation of the clitoris and other sexual organs. Its ultimate version, the infamous infibulation, implies in the excerption of the clitoris and both the lips and suture of the vulva, leaving just a small aperture which allows passage for the urine and the menstrual flow.

A great many girls would die after being mutilated, as the incision is done without any anaesthesia neither a hint of hygiene. It’s extremely painful, traumatic, besides increasing the risk of transmission by the HIV (in the case of grupal ablation), incontinency, both the pregnancy and labour disrupted, bleeding, sexual infections, and so on. In some nations the female circumcision is done at birth, in others, during childhood or early adolescence.

The main purpose of mutilation is the woman refrained from sexual pleasure. From this “surgery”, she can’t feel a hint of pleasure during sex and the general consensus is that therefore her virginity would be upheld until she gets married so that her mature sexuality could be constrained.

The men, from these cultures, wouldn’t get married with non-circumcised women, by considering them “impure” or “sexually> indulgent”. Furthermore, those countries in which female circumcision is done are the girls obliged to marry men chosen by their parents, most often much older than themselves and having other wives.  

Many swots regard this practice as pertaining to those countries which endorse it and might bear sacred wise explanation. Existing data from authors disagree with such proposition, allegedly the religion does not depend itself of mutilation, being its practice linked to culture rather than anything else.

Further other authors remark that the female circumcisions might not sound crystal clear even for its followers.

Since the seventies the world over had already gain acknowledgement of it, although after the Somali supermodel Waris Dirie came out public to disclose her personal ordeal, and indeed was the very first one to do so, the rally against it has grown from strength to strength. Waris is key player currently in the fight against female mutilation, being nominated by the UN as the ambassadress for its eradication.

The main point surrounding it lies within a country’s culture versus human rights.  There’s no consensus reached about it still. That’s a worldwide debate, what every one must reckon is that the world has come a long way since then, being most societies industrialized, sustained by cutting edge technology and so-medicine, how come so many women out there aren’t entitled to sexual pleasure yet?

Circumcised women will never feel orgasm, having to go through a long period of healing process for the wound left on their vaginas and likely to spend the rest of their lives attempting to heal the scar left in their psyche. No matter how proud some of them might feel about it, they felt pain indeed, in that, the trauma could come out under different guises, subjecting themselves to the husband inclusive.

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